Sunday, July 30, 2017

Motherhood, am I a failure? NOPE!

Ever feel like a failure of a Mom? I know I do! But guess what? You're not. Being a Mom is like the hardest job on the planet. I don't care what anybody says! So much to do. So much to worry about. It's a never ending story. But being a Mom obviously is about your kids, it's not about you. So the question to ask yourself, is, are your kids happy, and are you happy? If yes, then you are doing it right. If the answer is no, then you are still doing it right. Confused? Guess what? Our job of being a Mom isn't gonna make our kids happy 100% of the time. They are gonna love us at times, and hate us at times. You just gotta keep loving them, and taking care of them. That's the job. I know my girls get so mad at me sometimes. Like everything is my fault. But then sometimes, they love me, or at least act like they do! Ha! Maybe that the life with three girls, and teenagers. And I'm not happy all the time either. I feel like a failure a lot. I worry constantly. Are they happy? Did they get enough to eat? Am I making the right choice? Did I instill in them good values and morals? Hopefully. But they are still kids, have to wait and see.  The main thing to remember about being a mom,  is we are all different. We all are raising our kids differently. All of our kids are different. And you can't make everyone happy all the time. It's a hard job! Cooking, cleaning, breaking up arguments over who's shirt that is, running them here and there, more cooking and cleaning, making sure they actually took a bath and washed their bodies, grocery shopping, did I mention cooking and cleaning? Goodness, the list goes on forever. But you are doing it. Everyday. That's what matters. That's what makes you a mom. It all may seem like it's falling apart right now, but it isnt. Just breathe! It's gonna work out. Motherhood is NOT some perfect commercial with everyone sitting at the kitchen table, with a beautifully prepared meal, clean house, and smiles all around! That's just not real! At least I don't think it is. And it gives moms a false sense of what they should be doing as a mom. Real motherhood is screaming, and yelling, toys everywhere, poop, and blood, and crying, a messy home, dirty dishes, and hopefully at the end of the day, a halfway decent meal for supper! It gets hectic. No two days are the same. It definitly isn't perfect. What is perfect anyways? My motherhood is mine. No other mom is just like me. We all do it different. The main thing is you are doing it. Don't give up. It will all be worth it in 20 years. You just keep doing it, keep on Mom'in. When you start feeling like a failure agai, just come back and read this again! Are the kids fed? Are they clean? Are they not bleeding? Are you not bleeding? Then guess what? YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE! You are doing the hardest job on the planet! CUDOS TO YOU MOM!!

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